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Yesterday was a great day, let’s keep it going!


Yesterday was a great day, let’s keep it going! Only 24 hours left 😀 to nominate my book Cracked Daisy. You do not need an Amazon Account, you only need to sign in with an email and create a pasword. Thank you, thank you! 😀

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The Answer to Pain



There is a lot of pain floating around in the world. If you are a breathing human, you already know this and you are either in a storm, just out of a storm. or getting ready to head into a storm. The sad fact is that there is sin in this world and Jesus said himself, “In this world you will have trouble,” John 16:33. I can scroll through my news feed any day of the week and see the pain. Some people wear it on their sleeve, other people’s pain manifests into sinful behavior and others keep it to themselves yet it pops up in other behavior. Some people are good at hiding it, although sooner or later it will show in a way that can be destructive to your relationships- like a toxic goo that works its way in to what eventually develops bitterness. I have a note I keep posted up in my kitchen, I am not sure where I heard it but it was profound enough for me to write it down.

“It is not the wound that hurts you, it is your reaction to the wound.”

Some people get emotionally wounded and lash out at the ones that have loved them the most. I see it everyday. I don’t understand it, the only answer I have is that Satan is the great deceiver. He wants nothing more than to steal your peace. Don’t let him win.

Well, I have the answer. No, seriously, I do. Are you ready to hear it? Are you ready to let go of your pain? Are you ready to have peace? It is so awesome and simple you may want to share it and spread this good news. Some of you may already be doing it and that is GREAT!


Here it is……..
1. Have you prayed to God about it? I am not talking a prayer you mumbled while you were in the shower or sitting in your car. (However, I do recommend praying throughout the day!) I mean this pain that you have, trouble that is bogging you down, tears that wont stop– Have your knees met the floor and is your heart only focused on God kind of prayer? I am not saying God wont answer your quick prayers but have you paid Him reverence?

2. Have you looked to scripture? Have you? Not a quick picture on Facebook that has a single verse or part of a verse (that may even be taken out of context!)– BUT HAVE YOU OPENED THE ACTUAL BIBLE? I have a few apps on my phone and I HIGHLY recommended downloading the iBible app. Ask God to open your eyes up to His word, ask for knowledge.

3. If you don’t make time for God, however you expect him to make time for you?? I have nothing more to add here- refer to 1 and 2.

4. Try switching your radio to a Christian Radio station. Bott Radio Network is wonderful and you can do a quick google search to find a station near you or just listen live online. Another one is Air1 on iHeart radio would be a great start!

Matthew 7:24-25
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.”

My friend, it is never too late to start building your foundation on The Rock. The solid foundation of God. You can start right now and if you do, and would like someone praying for your journey- let me know and I will lift you up in prayer and pray for your journey.

May God Bless Your Walk and May God Heal Your Pain

Parents, you did not give birth to Bank Robbers… I don’t think…


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I wrote the following post in October of 2006 when my children were much younger. If I were able to tell my ‘younger mom self’ anything it would be to Chill Out. The bedtimes become easier, stop the stressing, if they aren’t in bed by 9 pm they will not grow up to become bank robbers because you couldn’t keep a solid bedtime schedule. They will not fall in with the wrong crowd if you can’t wrangle them in bed on time. My boys are teenagers now and all my worries are for not. So– to every mom and dad out there that feels overwhelmed by the bedtime ritual- I have felt your pain— but alas– chill out. The above photo was taken of our boys last summer in Chicago ~~~~comedians- yes, bank robbers- no~~~~

Bedtime…. 10/17/06
Why is putting children to bed so trying on parents? I remember when I only had one child and bedtime was relatively peaceful. With another child added the more hectic bedtime rituals have become. They make a spitting game out of brushing their teeth and I have lost count of all the ‘illnesses’ my oldest son comes down with once he is in bed. He could run a marathon, play board games, ride his bike till the cows come home but once he settles down and is all covered up that is when he decides he has something in his eye, a sore throat, or remembers he hasn’t had a bowel movement in two days and he thinks something is wrong. Then in the morning when I ask how he feels it is always a blank, “Fine, why?” *sigh*
I have read countless books and articles on this subject, listened to wise older relatives but I am still finding bedtime stressful. The experts say calm down your bedtime ritual by turning off the TV an hour before bedtime. Have them drink a glass of warm milk. Don’t give them anything to eat or drink before bed, which negates giving them warm milk before bedtime.?. Give them a soothing bath. Read a book. Say prayers. Turn on their night light. Check their closet for monsters. Make sure they use the restroom. See that they have their favorite blanket. Convince your children that no one cut the moon in half it is supposed to look that way. Come On People… In the perfect world you may be able to do all these every night, but we do not live in a perfect world.
My question I guess is: when are children expected to go to bed with minimal interference? I know they are only little once and I respect that argument but between cooking, putting up leftovers, dishes, cleaning, sweeping, laundry, checking homework, bills, husbands, dogs, making lunches for the next day and so on. Is it too much to ask for a few nights a week that end in a solitary, “Mom and Dad, I am going to bed now. Goodnight and I love you.” Does this make me a bad Mom? I will admit that I have said to my children on more than one occasion ‘Just go to bed. Not one more word’. They are old enough to brush their teeth by themselves, put their pajamas on and make their bed all by themselves they then should be expected to go to bed at least a few times a week without me pulling my hair out?
Then again I don’t want to complain too much because I know in a few years when they’re teenagers my focus will be ”why aren’t they home in bed yet?” I have talked to countless other families and I know I am not alone in these reactions nor is this the first generation to confront the strife of the terrible catastrophe of bedtime. My grandmother had 7 kids and she still has all of her hair! Now not every night follows this pattern but more times than not this is how it plays out. Please, don’t get the wrong impression I love being a mom, it has many rewards and I truly believe they are a gift from God and I wouldn’t trade motherhood for all the money in the world. But when 9 pm comes and goes and I am trying to convince my oldest son I don’t see anything in his eye, or convincing him his filling in his tooth has not fallen out, or sooth any fears from my youngest he is not hearing noises under his bed while trying to keep him in it, I may get a little testy. I am sure my frustrations are justified. I fear the only solution is age. The older they get the calmer bedtime becomes; at least this is what I am holding on to.

And yes it does get easier- I PROMISE!!!

Does your book sales on Amazon dwindle during the summer or is it just me?


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Book Sales on Amazon

My book Junior Size Faith was published in May of 2012.  When it was released I had a goal of thirty reviews on Amazon.  I am not sure why I had this goal set at thirty, it seemed like a high number for a ‘never before published author’ but that was my goal.  This goal was reached in close to a year.  A steady climb to the number thirty review and that is where it has set for at least three months.  Something I noticed last year during the summer months- I hardly sold any books at all for about two and half months.  I also noticed the same thing this summer.  As soon as school started I noticed the sales picked back up right away.

Odd or are readers just being able to hear themselves think again?

I’ve chalked it up to normal summer activities keeping the average reader busy and away from books.  I myself was busy with kid’s activities, my husband, family, vacations and just household duties.  Now that they are back in school I have spent time reading and actually adding about fifteen thousand words to my word count on writing projects.  I have lofty dreams to keep this word count high now that I have days that I can dedicate to writing without kids needing chauffeured around town (I don’t really mind this), multiplying summer laundry (this, I do mind), or just plan fed (they really can eat a horse) every ten minutes (we have teenage boys).  Hours I can dedicate to daydreaming up new plots and forming the perfect sentence.  I do cherish every minute we get to spend with our boys, I really do.  I also put all my writing on the back burner during the summer months so I can focus on them.  I love my children and I make them a great breakfast and dinner, leaving the lunch time and the other seven to eight hours spent in the school system while this momma writes.  I remember my mother saying to my sister, brother and I when we had pushed every button she had, “I can’t even hear myself think”. I  would hear her say this and think to myself, “Wow, she is sooo dramatic!”   No, no she wasn’t.

There will be some of you that say maybe the time I spend marketing suffers over the summer because I put it away for 3 months…  Maybe… But, I don’t really market anytime of the year.   I actually just started this blog (because I can hear myself think now in complete sentences).  My Facebook page that I created over a year ago advertises free books that I find on Amazon and has never really received a lot of traffic.   I advertise this page in the Kindle edition of my book.  The truth is  I just like passing on good deals for the fun of it.  Maybe I should market more during the summer months but then I would miss out on all the things I listed above with our kids.  I would rather my writing suffer than quality time with my children.  I do not have an attention span long enough to manage my marriage, children,  household, daydreaming and writing.  Kudos for you that do, I am envious!

I don’t think it is just me that this sales drop during the summer months is happening to.  Now that my sales have resumed this fall all I can assume is ‘this feeling overwhelmed’ during the summer months has to happen to others and as their (like mine) reading lists get longer they long for the end of August so they can once again, “Hear themselves think,” and get to read a book and get lost in its pages or add to their word count.

Have a great day!!!